It is well-known that having a positive attitude is important for good results to occur, whether in tennis or in any area of our lives.
It is also known how necessary it is to fight hard to climb in the rankings, whether as a professional, semi-professional, or amateur.
It is essential to accept this in advance, so as not to run the risk of being disappointed, which could take the flavor out of the competition, and transform it into a kind of useless suffering.
Any player, and even good players worldwide, have a certain number of defeats each year, which vary according to the level and timing of each one. Unless they win the tournament, it’s more common that they lose once a week.
The following questions arise: what do they do with this defeat? How do they take it? Do they assimilate it quickly? Or do their minds get taken over by affliction?
From my point of view, and also from my experience, I noticed that the important part is to understand immediately what happened, why it was lost, what was done wrong, and what could have been done that was not done.
That is to say, achieving a more impersonal perspective can be a good way to diminish exaggeration, drama, and frustration.
A man of many virtues, “Super” Roger Federer, does this really well. It´s true that sometimes he gets angry, but it is better this way, because he shows that he is human. Even after having played badly for his skill-level, he has the wonderful ability to assume defeat.
The key word is acceptance. We must accept that we lost, but that we may be at the beginning of a future victory, as long as we’ve learned something. Can we win a game that has already been lost?
It is all about identifying what was missing for the win, and then to set new goals for a better play. Perhaps this is a way to recycle oneself, and to keep one’s own self-confidence safe from self-criticism.
Coach Guillermo Minutella